Ever watched a movie and found yourself saying things like “this is so scripted” and “this is entirely predictable”? The transparent way the actors clearly read their lines verbatim without inflection or emotion and the way the scenes look too perfect and/or cheaply put together- the lack of sincerity and thought in the movie helping to create an environment of unbelievableness.
Movies like these help make it easy for us to believe that real life is entirely unscripted. That the fake scenarios on the screen dont even get close to replicating actual scenes from everyday life.
But they do.
Your life is probably more scripted than you think. Your presentation of who you are too perfect or too cheap. We dont hide behind masks or false pretensions so much as much as we hide behind scripts.
Me: so, how are you doing today?
Me: how is work going?
You: another day, another dollar. Its ok.
Me: everything ok at home?
You: yep. Nothing to complain about. Family is fine. How are you doing?
You: hows life going these days?
You: looking forward to the weekend?
You: doing anything?
Me: oh just alot of chilling out, maxin, relaxin, all cool. you know, being awesome.
You: for sure.
Me: alright, got to get back to (insert whatever it is i need or dont need to do that is somehow more important than this conversation here.)
You: ok cool. see you later.
Me: be good!
And thus, the script has been read. Our real life transaction entirely scripted, every answer predictable, every thought already thought. This happens everyday. We’re all guilty of it.
So then, how do we flip these scripts?